Now that I am of a certain age, I am even more aware of those jokes about the "dried up old lady." Many women (and men) think this is the only scenario that a lubricant is needed. Let's dispel that myth and a few others...
Myth #1: Only old women with vaginal dryness use lubricants.
When it comes to sex, in general the wetter the better. Isn't that why the term WAP is so popular?!? A study of almost 2,500 women age 18 to 68 years (average age 32.5) found that 70% of the time, lube made sex pleasurable and more comfortable. The most common reason cited for using a lubricant was to avoid tearing of the vagina. Avoiding tearing obviously means more comfortable sex, but reduced friction and tearing of the vagina can also decrease risk of sexually transmitted infections (STIs).
Myth #2: A woman is dry only when she isn’t turned on.
Just because a woman is in the mood (libido) doesn’t mean her body always responds the way it should (arousal). There are multiple reasons a woman might not be able to lubricate -- certain hormonal birth control methods, postpartum hormonal changes, breastfeeding, (peri)menopause, medications such as antihistamines or some antidepressants, diseases that cause overall dryness such as Sjogren's syndrome, and even stress. For all of these reasons and more, many women of all ages can experience vaginal dryness that has nothing to do with desire for her partner.
Myth #3: I can just use any body oil as a lubricant
Technically you could, but it might not be the best or healthiest thing for you. Because oils don’t wash away easily, if the oil is too thick and/or the pH isn’t optimal for the vagina it may cause irritation or infection. If you use condoms or toys, oils and oil-based lubricants are not a good choice as they can weaken latex condoms and break down silicone toys.
Myth #4: Lubes are all the same
That’s like saying all lipsticks are the same! Look for quality ingredients and avoid ingredients like glycerin (can make you prone to yeast infections), propylene glycol (used as an ingredient in antifreeze), parabens (linked to infertility and may mimic estrogen so probably breast cancer patients should avoid), and phthalates (can affect thyroid function). At GLISSANT we protect your vagina by making lubricants without harmful chemicals!
Myth #5: Lubricated condoms are just as good as using lubricant
Interestingly, the lubricant is usually added after the condom is rolled up so the shaft of the condom is often dry so adding lubricant after the condom is unrolled can reduce friction. More important for you to consider is what the condom is lubricated. One common ingredient is the spermicide nonoxynol-9 that can make a woman more prone to irritation and infection. Parabens and glycerin are also commonly used. Other ingredients are unknown because condoms are not required to disclose this information. Ridiculous I know, but stay tuned on that matter...